What is Perfectionism?
Am I a Perfectionist?
Have you ever wondered, “Am I a perfectionist?”
A perfectionist is often defined as someone who strives to get every detail exactly right. Perfectionists refuse to accept any standard short of perfection. However, no one in this world is perfect and having unrealistically high standards can actually negatively impact your life.
Many of the traits of a perfectionist might seem pretty common in today’s society (don’t get me started). Here are some signs that you may be a perfectionist:
Procrastination: Many perfectionists refuse to try something until they are absolutely sure they can do it perfectly. This often results in procrastination due to a fear of failure.
Task Completion: Many perfectionists take a long time to complete tasks because they refuse to say they are finished until it is absolutely perfect. Instead, they might continue to rework the project or make small changes.
Lack of Appreciation: Many perfectionists are so focused on the end result being perfect that they struggle to learn and grow along the way. They often find it challenging to appreciate what they have.
Anxiety: Many perfectionists put immense pressure on themselves to succeed and “be the best”. They will often feel uncomfortable or anxious if there is a lack of direction/clear path to success.
Overworking: Perfectionists are always trying to find the next thing they can master or accomplish. Their need to achieve flawless results can result in long hours with few breaks, which often leads to burnout.
Anxiety and Perfectionism
Perfectionists tend to have higher levels of anxiety because they are constantly worried of making a mistake. This feeling of not being “good enough” can lead to anxiety disorders such as generalized anxiety disorder or even social anxiety disorder. The self-criticism that comes with perfectionism leads to anxious thoughts such as “I’m not good enough.” and “What will they think of me now?”. Often times we will find ourselves stuck in a cycle from the pressure to be perfect and self-sabotaging, anxious thoughts. The more we engage in this cycle of behavior the more habitual it becomes.
Escape the Cycle
The first step in relief is recognizing that you might be experiencing symptoms of perfectionism and anxiety. Next, you might benefit from starting healthy habits that focus on the good you do each day. You might want to start a gratitude journal, repeat positive affirmations and phrases to yourself, or set guidelines for a work-life balance that provides you with time to relax. Remind yourself that mistakes are necessary to learn and grow! While it is totally normal to feel overwhelmed when working on these skills, trying out therapy can be a great option! Therapy can help shift your mindset, teach you strategies to tackle your goals in smaller steps, and help you become the BEST version of yourself. My clients report having a clearer picture of their life goals and find relief in the support I offer when working together.
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